Your True Wealth & Security Lies in Your Mindset And Nobody Can Take This Away From You! A few days ago, a middle-aged gentleman attended my Patterns of Excellence Introductory Seminar and signed up. He told me that he wanted to re-think and re-plan his life’s strategy as he felt like he wasn’t going anywhere in his career. What frustrated him was that he used to be very successful in school. He was the perfect student who studied hard, got top grades and went to Raffles Institution, Raffles Junior Colleges and to NUS, where he got a first class honors degree.
He did everything by the book and coudn’t understand why he had less success and money than some of his friends who were from lousier schools and had poorer grades. ‘Where did I go wrong?’, he asked me.He always wanted to attend my program and learn NLP but procrastinated for a long time. What really made him take action was that he had enough about working so hard, but always getting passed up for a promotion. What’s worse was that his company (an MNC) was undergoing a restructuring and there was a high posisbility that he may get retrenched. At the age of 43, he had the fear of what he was going to do if it should happen to him. He came to me looking for answers.
I explained that the world had changed so much since our parents time and the advice they gave us in the past will not only NOT help us succeed, but it may kill us. In the past, change happened slowly and people would work for the same company their entire lives. In the old days, parents gave good advice like, ‘ study hard. Get good grades. find a good job with a good company. do as you are told. don’t rock the boat. the longer you stay and the more loyal you are, your value and pay will automatically increase until you finally get to retire at 50 with a nice secure pension.’
However, the world we live in today is vastly different. Technology and knowledge is changing so fast that 80% of what you learn in school is OBSOLETE by the time you graduate. The nature of jobs are changing so fast that 50% of the jobs that exist today will not exist or exist in a different form 10 years from now. So what does this mean? THis means that when you work for a company today, there is no job or income security anymore. The longer you stay in a company, your value will begin to decline (if you don’t upgrade yourself continously and do things differentl). By the time you hit 45-50 years old, there is a 70% chance of being retrenched!
Why? becasue your boss will know taht he can hire someone half your age, half your pay, double your energy, doing the same job! And even if you can find another job, it will probably be at a much much lower pay! Many people who are holding their prestigious degrees and in prestigous positions (Senior managers, Vice-presidents, directors) think they have security. But it is really an ILLUSION of security. Because you do not own your job or your income. Both these can be taken away from us at any time.
So what will give us true income, true freedom and true security? The answer is in continually investing in yourself and upgrading yourself. Your true wealth and security lies in your mindset and your personal mastery skills in being able to continually motivate yourself and overcome adversity. No one can take this away from you! With the right mindset and personals success strategies, you will be able to ride the sea of changes and take charge of the environment, instead of allowing the environment take charge of you! You have to begin to master your mind and design your own destiny (or someone will design it for you)
Don’t Like to Sell? Then You Will Never Be Rich! Recently, I was doing a recruitment seminar (to fresh graduates from the local universities) for one of the large insurance companies in Singapore. I talked about how anyone could achieve time freedom and financial freedom by becoming a financial advisor in Singapore. I shared how becoming a financial advisor was a powerful strategy in becoming your own boss and having the potential of earning unlimited income WITHOUT having to have lots of startup capital.
What shocked me as the number one reason that stopped them from even considering the career was, ‘ we don’t like to sell’ or ‘we don’t feel comfortable with being a salesperson’ Somehow, many of these grads were under the impression that by being a graduate, selling was beneath them! I looked them in the eyes and told them, ‘ If you do not like the idea of selling to someone else, you will NEVER EVER BE RICH!!!!!’ I believe that if you don’t like salespeople or if you don’t like to sell yourself, you can forget about ever becoming wealthy.
I believe that in order to achieve ANYTHING in life, you must be great at SELLING! If you want to land that lucrative job, you must be great at SELLING YOURSELF during the interview. If you want to get that promotion, working hard and being loyal is not good enough. It is not always the smartest and most hard working person who gets the promotion. It is the person who is able to SELL HIS IDEAS to management and the person who is able to SELL and convince top management why they are the best person for the job.
The person who ends up President of the United States (or any country) is not the smartest person around (look at Bush), but it is the person who is best able to SELL themselves and their ideas to the people.
If you want to get the man or woman of your dreams, you have to SELL YOURSELF (it is called dating). All CEOs are top salespeople. They have to constantly sell their vision to their employees, sell their company, brand and products to the market and sell their business to investors. All the prophets like Jesus, Buddha, Confucious, Mohammed etc… had to sell the concept of salvation.
I have seen so many people with PhDs, Masters Degrees, from Top colleges and even people in the Gifted Program with super high IQs who will NEVER EVER be rich simply because they cannot sell.
Looking back at my life, I feel that what gave me the edge over all my friends and competitors was the fact that I learnt to enjoy and be great at selling! That is what made me into a best-selling author, one of the highest paid speakers in Asia. It also allowed me to build one of the strongest brands in education and training.
To be honest, when I first started, I felt uncomfortable with selling too. I felt uneasy asking people to give me money (which is what selling is all about). I had the wrong perception that the person who sells gains at the expense of the person buying.
Then, I realized that if you provide a product or a service that truly adds value to people’s lives, then it is a win win situation. You are helping that person solve a problem, meet a need or achieve a desire/goal.
At the same time, you get rewarded for the value you have created for that person. So, go forth and create value to the whole world… and become rich in the process
Strategy 1 "瞒天过海" - Deceive the sky to cross the ocean. o Moving about in the darkness and shadows, occupying isolated places, or hiding behind screens will only attract suspicious attention. To lower an enemy's guard you must act in the open hiding your true intentions under the guise of common every day activities.
* Strategy 2 "围魏救赵" - Surround Wei to rescue Zhao. o when the enemy is too strong to attack directly, then attack something he holds dear. Know that in all things he cannot be superior. Somewhere there is a gap in the armour, a weakness that can be attacked instead. o In other words, you may try to attack the relatives or dear ones of the enemy to weaken him psychologically.
* Strategy 3 "借刀杀人" - Borrow one's hand to kill. (Kill with a borrowed knife.) o Attack using the strength of another (because of lack of strength or do not want to use own strength). Trick an ally into attacking him, bribe an official to turn traitor, or use the enemy's own strength against him.
* Strategy 4 "以逸待劳" - Make your enemy tire himself out while conserving energy. o It is an advantage to choose the time and place for battle. In this way you know when and where the battle will take place, while your enemy does not. Encourage your enemy to expend his energy in futile quests while you conserve your strength. When he is exhausted and confused, you attack with energy and purpose.
* Strategy 5 "趁火打劫" - Use the opportunity of fire to rob others. (Loot a burning house.) o When a country is beset by internal conflicts, when disease and famine ravage the population, when corruption and crime are rampant, then it will be unable to deal with an outside threat. This is the time to attack.
* Strategy 6 "声东击西" - Feign an attack in the east and attack in the west. o In any battle the element of surprise can provide an overwhelming advantage. Even when face to face with an enemy, surprise can still be employed by attacking where he least expects it. To do this you must create an expectation in the enemy's mind through the use of a feint.
* Strategy 7 "无中生有" - Create something from nothing. o You use the same feint twice. Having reacted to the first and often the second feint as well, the enemy will be hesitant to react to a third feint. Therefore the third feint is the actual attack catching your enemy with his guard down.
* Strategy 8 "暗渡陈仓" - Secretly utilize the Chen Chang passage. (Repair the highway to take the crude path.) e.g., the Allied invasion of Normandy and the Pas de Calais deception. o Attack the enemy with two convergent forces. The first is the direct attack, one that is obvious and for which the enemy prepares his defense. The second is the indirect, the attack sinister, that the enemy does not expect and which causes him to divide his forces at the last minute leading to confusion and disaster.
* Strategy 9 "隔岸观火" - Watch the fires burning across the river. o Delay entering the field of battle until all the other players have become exhausted fighting amongst themselves. Then go in full strength and pick up the pieces.
* Strategy 10 "笑里藏刀" - Knife sheathed in a smile. o Charm and ingratiate yourself to your enemy. When you have gained his trust, you move against him in secret
* Strategy 11 "李代桃僵" - Plum tree sacrifices for the peach tree. (Sacrifice the silver to keep the gold.) o There are circumstances in which you must sacrifice short-term objectives in order to gain the long-term goal. This is the scapegoat strategy whereby someone else suffers the consequences so that the rest do not.
* Strategy 12 "顺手牵羊" - Stealing a goat along the way (Take the opportunity to pilfer a goat.) o While carrying out your plans be flexible enough to take advantage of any opportunity that presents itself, however small, and avail yourself of any profit, however slight.
* Strategy 13 "打草惊蛇" - Startle the snake by hitting the grass around it. o When you cannot detect the opponent's plans launch a direct, but brief, attack and observe your opponent reactions. His behavior will reveal his strategy.
* Strategy 14 "借尸还魂" - Borrow another's corpse to resurrect the soul. (Raise a corpse from the dead.) o Take an institution, a technology, or a method that has been forgotten or discarded and appropriate it for your own purpose. Revive something from the past by giving it a new purpose or to reinterpret and bring to life old ideas, customs, and traditions.
* Strategy 15 "调虎离山" - Entice the tiger to leave its mountain lair. o Never directly attack an opponent whose advantage is derived from its position. Instead lure him away from his position thus separating him from his source of strength.
* Strategy 16 "欲擒姑纵" - In order to capture, one must let loose. o Cornered prey will often mount a final desperate attack. To prevent this you let the enemy believe he still has a chance for freedom. His will to fight is thus dampened by his desire to escape. When in the end the freedom is proven a falsehood the enemy's morale will be defeated and he will surrender without a fight.
* Strategy 17 "抛砖引玉" - Tossing out a brick to get a jade o Prepare a trap then lure your enemy into the trap by using bait. In war the bait is the illusion of an opportunity for gain. In life the bait is the illusion of wealth, power, and sex.
* Strategy 18 "擒贼擒王" - Defeat the enemy by capturing their chief. o If the enemy's army is strong but is allied to the commander only by money or threats then, take aim at the leader. If the commander falls the rest of the army will disperse or come over to your side. If, however, they are allied to the leader through loyalty then beware, the army can continue to fight on after his death out of vengeance.
* Strategy 19 "釜底抽薪" - Remove the firewood under the cooking pot. (Remove the stick from the axe.) o When faced with an enemy too powerful to engage directly you must first weaken him by undermining his foundation and attacking his source of power.
* Strategy 20 "混水摸鱼" - Fish in disturbed waters. o Before engaging your enemy's forces create confusion to weaken his perception and judgment. Do something unusual, strange, and unexpected as this will arouse the enemy's suspicion and disrupt his thinking. A distracted enemy is thus more vulnerable.
* Strategy 21 "金蝉脱壳" - Slough off the cicada's shell. (False appearances mislead the enemy.) o When you are in danger of being defeated, and your only chance is to escape and regroup, then create an illusion. While the enemy's attention is focused on this artifice, secretly remove your men leaving behind only the facade of your presence.
* Strategy 22 "关门捉贼" - Shut the door to catch the thief. o If you have the chance to completely capture the enemy then you should do so thereby bringing the battle or war to a quick and lasting conclusion. To allow your enemy to escape plants the seeds for future conflict. But if they succeed in escaping, be wary of giving chase.
* Strategy 23 "远交近攻" - Befriend a distant state while attacking a neighbor. o It is known that nations that border each other become enemies while nations separated by distance and obstacles make better allies. When you are the strongest in one field, your greatest threat is from the second strongest in your field, not the strongest from another field.
* Strategy 24 "假道伐虢" - Obtain safe passage to conquer the Kingdom of Guo. o Borrow the resources of an ally to attack a common enemy. Once the enemy is defeated, use those resources to turn on the ally that lent you them in the first place.
* Strategy 25 "偷梁换柱" - Replace the beams with rotten timbers. o Disrupt the enemy's formations, interfere with their methods of operations, change the rules in which they are used to following, go contrary to their standard training. In this way you remove the supporting pillar, the common link that makes a group of men an effective fighting force.
* Strategy 26 "指桑骂槐" - Point at the mulberry and curse the locust. o To discipline, control, or warn others whose status or position excludes them from direct confrontation; use analogy and innuendo. Without directly naming names, those accused cannot retaliate without revealing their complicity.
* Strategy 27 "假痴不癫" - Pretend to be a pig in order to eat the tiger. (Play dumb.) o Hide behind the mask of a fool, a drunk, or a madman to create confusion about your intentions and motivations. Lure your opponent into underestimating your ability until, overconfident, he drops his guard. Then you may attack.
* Strategy 28 "上屋抽梯" - Remove the ladder when the enemy has ascended to the roof (Cross the river and destroy the bridge.) o With baits and deceptions lure your enemy into treacherous terrain. Then cut off his lines of communication and avenue of escape. To save himself he must fight both your own forces and the elements of nature.
* Strategy 29 "树上开花" - Deck the tree with false blossoms. o Tying silk blossoms on a dead tree gives the illusion that the tree is healthy. Through the use of artifice and disguise make something of no value appear valuable; of no threat appear dangerous; of no use appear useful.
* Strategy 30 "反客为主" - Make the host and the guest exchange places. o Defeat the enemy from within by infiltrating the enemy's camp under the guise of cooperation, surrender, or peace treaties. In this way you can discover his weakness and then, when the enemy's guard is relaxed, strike directly at the source of his strength.
* Strategy 31 "美人计" - The beauty trap. (The tender trap, use a woman to ensnare a man.) o Send your enemy beautiful women to cause discord within his camp. This strategy can work on three levels. First, the ruler becomes so enamored with the beauty that he neglects his duties and allows his vigilance to wane. Second, other males at court will begin to display aggressive behavior that inflames minor differences hindering co-operation and destroying morale. Third, other females at court, motivated by jealousy and envy, begin to plot intrigues further exacberating the situation.
* Strategy 32 "空城计" - Empty fort. (Mental trap, empty a fort to make enemy think it is filled with traps.) o When the enemy is superior in numbers and your situation is such that you expect to be overrun at any moment, then drop all pretence of military preparedness and act casually. Unless the enemy has an accurate description of your situation this unusual behavior will arouse suspicions. With luck he will be dissuaded from attacking.
* Strategy 33 "反间计" - Let the enemy's spy sow discord in the enemy camp. (Use enemy's own spy to spread false information.) o Undermine your enemy's ability to fight by allowing enemy's spy to remain within your ranks,while you feed false information causing enemy discord with his friends, allies, advisors, family, commanders, soldiers, and population. Preoccupied settling internal disputes, your enemy's ability to attack or defend is compromised and your control of him is increased.
* Strategy 34 "苦肉计" - Inflict injury on one's self to win the enemy's trust. (Fall into a trap; become baited.) o Pretending to be injured has two possible applications. In the first, the enemy is lulled into relaxing his guard since he no longer considers you to be an immediate threat. The second is a way of ingratiating yourself to your enemy by pretending the injury was caused by a mutual enemy.
* Strategy 35 "连环计" - Chain together the enemy's ships. (Never rely on but a single strategy.) o In important matters one should use several strategies applied simultaneously. Keep different plans operating in an overall scheme; in this manner if any one strategy fails you would still have several others to fall back on.
* The 36th strategy "走为上" - Run away to fight another day. o If it becomes obvious that your current course of action will lead to defeat then retreat and regroup. When your side is losing there are only three choices remaining: surrender, compromise, or escape. Surrender is complete defeat, compromise is half defeat, but escape is not defeat. As long as you are not defeated, you still have a chance.
A man walking along a California beach was deep in prayer. Suddenly the sky clouded above his head and, in a booming voice, the Lord said, "Because you have TRIED to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish."
The man said, "Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can drive over anytime I want."The Lord said, "Your request is very materialistic. Think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking. The supports required to reach the bottom of the Pacific! The concrete and steel it would take! It will nearly exhaust several natural resources. I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of something that would honor and glorify me."
The man thought about it for a long time. Finally he said, "Lord, I wish that I could understand my wife. I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says ‘nothing's wrong,’ and how I can make a woman truly happy.
"The Lord replied, "You want two lanes or four on that bridge?"
(3:19 PM)
femme
Zhiliang a.k.a MrZhuGe
Moving on to another
stage of my life
Eat, Sleep,Shop :)
Study Work... grrr
